Masturbation is the Art of satisfying one-self but has often received critical backlash. Myths, social stigma, and shame go hand in hand with the word and in spite of it being a healthy practice that is even recommended by doctors in a few cases.
Our generation has come way ahead from Centuries worth of criticism. We were the generation who has experienced either side of the argument are now open to discuss the topic on social media, spread awareness about benefits and normalizing the term as ‘Self Care’ or ‘Self Love’. Recently even public figures like Pooja Bedi has come forward with her Twitter Live in sponsorship with Durex to talk about Women Orgasms!
But what are myths that we have heard of or some that we might still believe in?
MASTURBATION CAUSES BLINDNESS
Well if this was true, a fair amount of population would have been blind right now and Masturbation would have been declared as a Health Hazard. In earlier centuries ‘playing with one-self’ was looked down as a mental disease/ sin of the devil or infiltration in the society as Sex was only to reproduce and not for pleasure. Young adults were often taught about side – effects like Hairy Palms, Blindness, Acne, Insanity or even Death as a punishment from God for one’s sin to masturbate.
MASTURBATION MAKES YOU INFERTILE
Too much masturbation causing Erectile Dysfunction in men and infertility in women are common myths that still reside in society. Not just developing or backward nations but also in developed parts of the world, young adults are scared of something called – ‘too much masturbation’. Some part of it might be true as you become accustomed to your own way of providing satisfaction that might not be duplicated with your partner. But overall there is no specific limit for one to masturbate in a week.
MASTURBATION RESTRICTS YOUR SEXUAL DEVELOPMENT
Some of the relatively newer myths also include restriction of penis growth or loosening of vaginal elasticity as side effects masturbation. Both of the claims as per scientists lack evidence to the theory. The maximum risk the masturbation can cause is rashes due to constant rubbing of sensitive skin. People can use lubricants or oils available in the market for smoother sexual satisfaction!
MASTURBATION IS ONLY FOR KIDS
Masturbation is a healthy activity for all ages and not just an early exposure to sexuality for teens. Masturbation can be really helpful especially for women. Women, as they age face issues like Vaginal dryness that leads to pain and discomfort inflicted during sex. Regular masturbation helps lubrication of the vagina and helps make sex enjoyable again. Even stimulating yourself or your partner with fingers or your hands can also be a good form of foreplay before sex for the body to be lubricated by its own for better sexual intercourse.
YOU MAY LOOSE YOUR VIRGINITY IF YOU MASTURBATE
Masturbation can actually be a form of ‘Safe Sex’, especially for the younger crowd. Instead of indulging in penetration one can satisfy themselves or their partner by various forms or oral stimulation or physical touch that can provide satisfaction without experiencing ‘sex’ as per r destroying the thin layer of the hymen in women which indicates the ‘loss of virginity’.
The hymen is the tissue that separates the outer vaginal opening that is actually not the correct certificate of one’s character. Being a thin and elastic layer of tissue it can break due to various forms of exercise or physical activity. It should never be an excuse not to indulge in some self-love.
MASTURBATION IS ONLY FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT HAPPY WITH THEIR PARTNER
Contrary to this, masturbation can be included as foreplay before sex. Masturbation can also be a turn on for your partner and can help you achieve better satisfaction emotionally and physically. As discussed above that masturbation promotes self-lubrication of sexual organs but also helps to indulge in your It helps you to love your body and understand how to stimulate yourself for better sex. This can be a guide to your partner and end dissatisfaction among partner! It can act as a therapy for falling relationships as well because sexual tension between partners often result in fights or can play a major role in splitting relationships!
SEX TOYS RUIN THE FUN OF ‘REAL SEX’
A machine vibrator or never replace the real deal. Dildos or vibrators can help a woman reach the stage of orgasm quicker but it is mere stimulation that can be mimicked from the sex process but might not provide a sexual drive or emotional satisfaction that can only be achieved by a human partner. Sex toys can also be added spice to the bedroom for couples are they explore new ways of making love or revive bedroom fun.
This brings us to the real question – IS MASTURBATION REALLY BAD?
As long as masturbation is carried out without hurting or physically injuring oneself. It is a healthy activity for the mind, body, and soul. With benefit ranging to better mental health, reduction in stress and headaches to restarting the auto lubrication in body and reintroducing yourself to self-love’ it gets a thumbs up from doctor, psychologists, and even marriage counselors.
The society today has taken a bigger leap where people are open about their sexuality. Especially in India where masturbation for women made them be tagged as a self-centered, house breaker or sometimes even an incarnation of the devil itself. We have come a long way in the journey to break myths and provide better sex education to the younger generation. We are yet to openly visit a ‘Sex Shop’ in India at a busy street a buying ourselves sex swings or dildos, but today we are able to find brands advertising about Sex toys and Orgasms that help you to explore your body. Exploring your inner demons of Lust and satisfaction are good for a better life.